如何用英语拒绝别人
学会拒绝别人，是你能为自己做的做好的事之一，但是，许多人都觉得这非常难。为什么呢?因为大家都想被他人所喜欢。讽刺的是，如果你能在适当的时候拒绝别人，人们才会更加喜欢你，尊重你。
Why Say No
拒绝别人的原因
1. People will respect you. People who say yes to everything in an attempt to be liked are quickly recognized as pushovers.
人们会尊重你。人们之所以言听计从，是力图被别人喜欢，但很快就会被认为是容易搞定的人。
When you say no to someone you are letting them know that you have boundaries. You are showing that you respect yourself--and that is how you gain respect from others.当
你拒绝他人的时候，你是在告诉他们，你也有底线。你是在展示对自己的尊重——这就是你赢得他人尊重的原因。
2. People will actually see you as more dependable. When you say yes only when you have the time and true ability to do a great job, then you'll gain a reputation for being dependable.If you say yes to everything, you're bound to do a bad job at everything.
人们会觉得你很可靠。当你只有在有时间和能力做好的时候才答应别人，你就能为自己赢来可靠的名声。如果你对什么都是言听计从，你一定什么都做不好。
3. When you're selective with your tasks, you'll sharpen your natural strengths. If you concentrate on the things you're good at, you'll be able to improve on your natural talents. For example, if you're a great writer but you're not so great as an artist, you may volunteer to write speeches but you shouldn't sign up to make the posters for your club. Concentrate on your strength and build your skills (and your experience) for college.
当你有选择性地对待你的任务，你就可以提高自己的天然优势。如果你将注意力集中在你所擅长的事情上，你就可以改善自己的天赋。例如，如果你是一个出色的'作家，但你在艺术方面则没有什么天赋，你可能就会自发地歇一歇演讲稿，但你却不会签约去为你的俱乐部制作海报。将注意力集中在你的长处上，锻炼自己在大学的技术(和经验)。
4. Your life will be less stressful. You may be tempted to say yes to people in order to please them. In the long run, you're only hurting yourself and others when you do this. You stress yourself out by overloading yourself, and you experience increased stress when you realize you're bound to let them down.
你的生活也会少些压力。你可能为了取悦一些人而答应他们某些事。从长远看，当你这样做的时候，你只是在伤害你自己和他人。你使自己超载，从而不堪重负，当你意识到你一定会让别人失望的时候，你的压力也会也会与之剧增。
When to Say No
什么时候应该拒绝别人
First let's point out the obvious: do your homework.
首先指出显而易见的：
You should never say no to a teacher, friend, or family member who is merely asking you to live up to your responsibilities. It's not okay to say no to a class assignment, just because you don't feel like doing it for some reason. This is not an exercise in cockiness.
你不应该拒绝你的老师，朋友或家人，因为他们仅仅是在告诉你，不要辜负自己的责任。你不应该因为一些原因不想做就拒绝做家庭作业。这可不是在考验你的骄傲自大。
It is OK to say no when somebody is asking you to step outside your true responsibilities and outside your comfort zone to take on a task that is dangerous or one that will overload you and affect your academic work and your reputation.
当某人想让你做职责范围或舒适区以外的危险的事，或者是增加你的负担和影响你的学业和名誉的事，你就应该拒绝别人。
For example:
例如
•If a teacher suggests that you become the president of a club that he or she is advising, but your schedule is already over-packed.
若如果老师推荐了一个俱乐部，建议你担任俱乐部主席，但是你的日程表已经排满了。
•If a popular athlete asks you to help with his/her homework and you don't have time.
如果一个有人气的运动员拜托你帮他写作业，但你没时间。
•If anybody asks you to do their homework for them.
如果有人让你帮他们做作业。
•If anybody asks you to give them information that was on a test (if they have a later class with the same teacher).
如果有人让你给他们提供有关考试的信息(如果他们跟你是一个老师，只不过是后进来的)。